Confidence is found in how you see yourself, not how others see you, and guess what? this can be changed easily from the inside out, but not so much from the outside in.
Let me ask you a question if you would not mind? When you are attracted to someone, a colleague, business partner, a friend or a potential mate, what attracts you?
Is it their style, their skin, hair, bum? lol!!
What I am trying to say is are you attracted to people from their external appearance?
Lets give an example, you see someone, who has lovely style and clothes, their skin and hair look great, you love their shoes, nails, maybe their body is spot on, nice bum? haha lol, but they shuffle in with their head down, their shoulders hunched. Would you still be attracted to go speak to that person, do they seem approachable, confident? are your likely to listen and apply what they have to say?
Now lets consider someone who’s possible dress sense is very different (to you), they have bad skin and really could do with losing some weight. But they walk in with their shoulders back their head held high, they wear a beautiful smile, and have a twinkling in their eyes that is infectious, they walk right up to you and hold out their hand and look you straight in the eye, making you feel important and special. Do you listen and apply what they have to say?
Who are you most attracted to? what attributes attract you? do you even notice the bad skin, when someone is wearing a beautiful smile, or do you even notice the stylish clothes if someone has their head down?
Yes you guessed it, my point, we are all attracted to confidence, to people who make us “feel” something, excited, enthusiastic, important, happy, those people who enable something inside of ourselves, we are attracted to those people we would like to be like.
So enable your confidence today, switch on the switch to ON all the time. Imagine your brain as a computer, go to the settings, and switch on the ON button, literally!! Imagine think , close your eyes and do this, where is your control panel, your heart your head? go there now and do this for yourself, no I don’t mean just read this!!! I MEAN DO IT NOW!!
You need to understand that confidence is just a tiny little emotional loop happening in your brain’s limbic system. That is all confidence is! Believe it or not, you have complete power over your confidence right now and at all times.
If it makes you feel better, I am 44 and still have acne and bad skin, however my confidence is not affected by it, maybe it is an age thing and it comes to everyone, I also am not as slim as I once was, and look top-heavy lol!! especially being short 5ft I look like a weeble at times, but yet again this does not affect my confidence.
I truly believe that all the hair, skin weight etc….etc…. can definitely help people with their confidence.
However true confidence is at the core of you, and you already have it.
Confidence is needed and used in so many areas of life, if I ask If you are confident to get into your car and drive, what would your answer be?
If I asked you if you were confident to make tea, what would your answer be?
If I asked if you were confident to walk across the room, what would your answer be?
I could do this for a long time, and I don’t know you! but if someone who did know you would do this, they could probably go on and on and on and on. Why dont you try it, ask someone who knows you today to do this for you!
You are simply choosing to not use your resource of confidence in this particular area of your life, and it can be as simple as over lapping one area on to another. Letting your subconscious know how you wish to feel, and moving that confidence that you already possess into this area as well.
Then you will find that the treatments, makeup etc…are an add-on to that confidence, they lift your spirits, like the cherry on top of the cake.
My suggestion to you? a small technique, small in time but huge in effect.
Imagine a time you are confident, whether it is at home, work, writing, singing, cooking, etc…
Really imagine the colours, the smells, what you see, how you feel.
Where does that feeling stems from, is it your heart, your head? your chest?
If that “feeling” was a colour what colour would it be? does it radiate, like a light?
While you are getting that really vivid memory that makes you feel soo confident, I want you to start to put all the parts of it, the “colours” “feelings” “smells” “sights” imagine looking at yourself from someone else’s eyes what do they see? a smile? shoulders back? and put all those parts into a little box that you can imagine holding in your hand, your box of confidence, filled with exactly how it feels.
Now when you feel that your confidence has hidden itself somewhere and you can’t seem to find the access point, I want you to imagine this box in you hand, and open it up and let out all of those feelings sights smells colours …and use them in that moment.
Remember confidence is an inward glow that you all possess. You can never change how someone else thinks, sees acts etc…. you can only change how you react and feel.
If someone was to judge anyone on acne or anything else, you could change this about yourself, for them. But ultimately you will probably find they will simply find fault elsewhere, as the issue is with THEM not you!
You simply choose how to react to that, with confidence as you know you are more than acne, or weight, or what ever your issue or challenge is.
It can often be seen that confidence issues can tend to lie with those who judge, anyone who is judgmental of others is generally trying to make themselves feel better by putting others down.
99.9% of the time, people are not judging others, just themselves!! they are not even considering you, as people ultimately are self-absorbed and they are actually thinking how they feel look etc….
So take a moment, make sure your control panel, settings switch turned onto ON, and open your box of confidence, feel the light and the colour, stand tall with your head held high, put on that beautiful smile of yours and put your shoulders back, feel that light beaming confidence into every pore, imagine it enveloping you like water as you step into a bath.
Simply GO AND DO IT NOW!
Your subconscious will learn very quickly just how confident you can be and soon that box will just be an automatic part of you. A blissful life starts with a blissfulmind love wendy xxx
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